Monday, November 07, 2005
in all fairness
“fair” is a word that is used and misused a lot. when i was younger, i remember complaining “that’s not fair!”, only to hear an adult respond, “life’s not fair.” and i would always wonder why they would choose to be unfair when they had the option to be different. i wanted life to be fair, and i used that word a lot!
however, i’m different now; i just think of ‘fair’ as a concept that is similar to ‘just’, but is a shade off. see, i can describe God as being just, but i wouldn’t describe God as being fair. hmmm… how would i explain… ‘just’ would be an absolute value, while fairness is more perception.
i’ll break it down with a super simple example: a father has two kids. one wants to go to the batting cages, the other wants to go to the driving range. well… if the dad was the only transportation/supervision available, and he wanted to please both kids, he might split the afternoon up and go to the batting cages for an hour and then follow it up with going to the driving range for an hour. that could be considered a just thing to do - give both kids equally what they asked for, while asking them to compromise and spend time with their sibling doing the other sport. yet, in both of the children’s eyes, the dad could be seen as unfair. the one who wants to go to the driving range might think his dad was unfair for making his sport the second choice, while the child who preferred batting cages might be mad at having to leave once he/she was warmed up. they could both complain that it was unfair… or… they could both see their dad’s attempt at accomodating both of them and see him as being ultimately fair. see what i mean?
i bring this topic up because last night someone was questioning me on my Christianity and at one point told me that i was being unfair. i, believing that fairness is perception, agreed that it might seem unfair. and then came the question: how could i be unfair when a basic tenet of Christianity was fairness?
well… honestly… what i said was, “Christianity isn’t fair.” i don’t think that’s the basis of my belief. i think instead, i believe that God is love, and that He is merciful and will do all he can to forgive people unworthy of forgiveness (now that’s unfair), just so that we can spend time with Him eternally. His law is just, and that’s why He can’t just give us eternal life without having someone pay the penalty for our sins, so that’s why He sent Jesus to die for us so that He can offer us that gift. fair? to Jesus? he could’ve been one of those children - “but why are you making me do that? i didn’t sin, why do I have to die? that’s not fair!”, but instead, He willingly accepted His role so that we could have eternal life…
fair? i don’t think so… but that’s what makes Him so great…
Saturday, November 05, 2005
what makes some people click?
yesterday was so nice… ching, jill, & rita were here at the apartment… we had a day slumber party =) just chilling, eating breakfast (spam, fried egg, fried rice - mmmmm!!!), talking, watching movies, and bonding. i was so excited cuz it was ching’s first time to meet jill and jill’s first time to meet rita, but they all got along splendidly! it was neat to be able to chill on the couches discussing life, and i guess it was cool cuz everyone told their story - no barriers were up. we just went straight to the good stuff =)
see… this is what i was talking about way back when i posted about interesting people! everyone thought there was a guy who was calling me (there wasn’t - at least not at that time), but i was talking more about the connection that people share. sometimes it’s an attraction… but mostly i meant “what causes someone to want to hang out with a specific someone else?” i mean, what would’ve happened had the friendships not clicked yesterday?
so, back to my question: what makes some people click and others not? why is it that some people (whether boys or girls) you wanna hang out with, while others, you don’t really care about? i used to wonder why some of my friends preferred staying home than coming out with all of us, and now i realize that i’m also getting more picky with who i hang out with - i’d rather stay at home alone than “waste time” going out with people i don’t care about. most of the time these friends i want to hang out with are people i’ve known for a long time, but everyone once in a while, i get a pleasant surprise when i meet someone new. yesterday was one of those ‘pleasant surprises’ cuz we had such a fun time, even though my friends just met each other.
anyways, back to my question: what causes that connection? what do you think?
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by the way, here are some archives on relationships for background....
way back in march, daryl, kat, laura, alan, & i had a buncha fun writing a few posts on friendships and relationships. it started off in a guest blog i did on daryl’s site, which he responded to by posting on my site. kat responded with this post, and then laura responded with this post.
Friday, November 04, 2005
grove volleyball
tonight is the girls last volleyball game… and then afterwards, we’re gonna have a staff/parent vs. varsity game, as a fundraiser.... michelle, kim, and i are lookin’ forward to playing ‘em for real in a gym, instead of just practicing with them on the outdoor court at the school. oh, what fun we’ll have =) hahahhaha… oh yeah… okay, well, i’m off to the gym to go play! let’s see how we do against varsity =)
Thursday, November 03, 2005
in the dog house
or at the dog pound, i should say… i went there a couple o’ weeks ago with mikey minimo & bobby to check out dogs for them to adopt. this dog was so adorable… it was actually really nice and calm, and not mean/agressive at all. that is, until another dog (a pit bull) came and started growling at him. but yah, he was well behaved and oh-so-lovely…
actually, there were tons of cute dogs there, and i felt so bad… i just wanted to adopt a lot of ‘em (can’t honestly say all… there -were- the ugly yappy dogs) and take ‘em home and love ‘em. once you see the look in their eyes, you’re gone… you just fall in love with ‘em!
Tuesday, November 01, 2005
fish in hot water
allison gave adam this goldfish, bubba, for his birthday last week, and he was toting it around school in it’s plastic bag… i felt so bad for it that i rummaged around the kitchen looking for a glass bowl it wouldn’t fall out of, and the only thing i could find was this cofeepot! =) hahahah… it was so cute in there… and all the students thought it was the best fishbowl ever!